Second Life BDSM

Hey peeps. Most of my readers know that i'm a real life femdom. I'm pretty open about this; I mean, check my in-world profile. It's listed there, promise. Allow me to start from the beginning:

Thanks to the world wide web, I came across BDSM as a young teen. I liked role-playing on forums; mainly anime and fantasy role-plays to be exact.  Even certain role-playing forums contained BDSM, and it wasn't long before I became instantly fascinated. It's like a part of me had been missing my entire life, and now I had found said lost piece. I found myself engulfed in exciting, dangerous, alluring BDSM role-plays over and over again. I even had several masters over the years, just on the internet. Let's keep in mind that I tried to be safe; I did not tell them my address or any other very personal information. After learning how to serve a master from excellent masters, I moved on to having a few slaves of my own on the internet. Being both a master and mistress at the same time was such an experience! One minute I would be submitting to my master, the next controlling my slave, all on forums and instant messaging.

Masters and slaves have changed over the years. One slave of mine has been by my virtual-side for almost six years, and i've been by the side of my virtual master for a few years. Late 2010, my first real life slave submitted to me.



That's right! My boyfriend Kyle, haha. He submitted a good while before asking me out.  It's interesting to be in control in real life; to have someone kneel before you, ready to serve and obey. As you can see, Kyle is with me in Second Life as well. Often times, Second Life BDSM is very different from the real thing. 

When I hear someone talking about SL BDSM, I hear that we're sex fiends. Lol. Well, i've visited quite a few BDSM clubs/dungeons/sims, and well...more often than not, the misinformed are being led by the misinformed. These people judge BDSM from what they see in Second Life, and  form their opinions based on the many SL sex fiends that call themselves "masters" and "mistresses", who really know nothing about BDSM. These people think that by "acting" like a tough master, or being naughty and alluring like a mistress, they are automatic-..no, i'm forgetting the need of a master/mistress group tag, a naughty outfit, and a freebie Open Collar on hand. *Cough* Those whom have taken it a step further maybe read a few articles on Google. Now they're experts! *Radiates sarcasm* Let's face it; most people in Second Life don't understand BDSM. Some people do, they really do, and others? Don't.

Which has led me to write this article about Second Life and BDSM. It feels awful when  someone looks at my often kawaii, petite avatar and think that i'm involved in something dirty and are completely shocked by the thought that "Kawaii Inu" somehow got caught up in the sex-fiend world. Well, let me start off by saying that besides my boyfriend Kyle, I do not participate in sexual acts with my other slaves in SL. They don't even want me to.

Yes, BDSM can be about sexual acts, but it can also be other things. BDSM is a bond of trust between an owner and slave, often physically represented by a collar.  It's a special form of companionship, much like a relationship between partners. The slave usually submits to an owner they are willing to fully trust with every aspect of their life, rather this be real life and/or Second Life. It's about being able to let go of the reins of your own life and allow someone trustworthy to take over for a while, or being the one to take over to allow another to relax. It's a give and take relationship, not a "you do what I say and thats that" kind of relationship (unless this is specifically what the slave desires). My slaves love and trust me because they know i'll always be there for them to give them love, affection, and advice with their troubles. They can come to me and relax for a while, and allow me to take care of them. On top of all this, we're a BDSM family, so we all love, respect, and support one another.

BDSM is a way of life, not just something to do in ones spare time. It's a learning experience for both owner and slave, and takes time for bonds to build and grow. It's a journey full of memories, adventures, and most importantly, being able to discover one's self in way that only having an owner or being owned can. Yes, sexual acts are a big part of BDSM, but there is a lot more to it than that; as I said, sex isn't even the focal point when it comes to my slaves and I. It doesn't have to be. BDSM has many sides to it, and to think it's just about sex is very inaccurate view.

I hope this helps to clear up some of the SL-caused misconceptions about BDSM.~



- Inuoko Shikami \o/

Bodyshop (Body):
Skin: "tSg" - Chloe in Cherub
Hair: =DeLa*= - Mesh Hair "Dolce"
Nails: ...:::Scrub:::... - Zipper Nails
Tattoo: Blah. - (Haiku Sakura Tattoo)
Face Piercing: ::[annaA]:: - Face Piercing "Bhutas " _ dark
Under-Eyeshadow: [ni.Ju] - Cat Scratch . baby pink


Create A SLer (Outfit):
Corset: [A]renesmee - Summer Stud Corset PINK *Perfect Wardrobe*
Skirt: Fuckin Hawt - Pleat Skirt (MESH) Black
Tights: *Sheer* - Tights 08: Torn Shiny Black
Panties: MUSCHI - Panties Down - Black
Bracelets: [EY:NO] - Mess Bangles silver
Horns: {Lemon Tea} - Horny Bumps (Pink)
Tail: {Lemon Tea} - Upright Demon Tail (Glossy Pink)
Shoes: J's - Thigh High BOOTS Black